Have you asked yourself this lately? - Our lives are determined by the quality of questions we ask.
It’s day 4 of me returning from my weeks of European wedding festivities, where we gathered 120 friends and family from over 35 cultures for a week of magic in Sicily (see my post here for a peek!).
From an old tour of the UNESCO world heritage ancient city, to welcome dinner in the historic downtown center, to our wedding day that came and went like a dream, I am still processing it all, with feelings of nostalgia, gratitude, and sadness that its all over.
My current truth? The transition back to NY has been a biiiiit rough.
I felt the highest highs and then came back with a long list of to-dos and reality knocking on my door and I felt demotivated to do much of anything. I also got my period so my hormones were out of wack.
💩I spent all Sunday laying in bed and ordering take out.
💩I couldn’t motivate to go to the gym or water my half dying plants.
💩I missed our usual Monday newsletter candance and am writing this on a Wednesday.
It felt as if my spirit was still in Italy but my body was in noisy NY.
As I ate the last remaining bar of chocolate I had in my empty fridge looking out my window, I had a thought.
When was the last time I gave myself permission to just BE?
Be lazy. Be unmotivated. Be tired. Be slower.
This is a powerful question my first generation immigrant daughter self never asked, as I always felt guilty about nearly everything in my life.
Until now.
I realized that eventhough 2024 has seen a slower season of business than what we are used to, that this could be the reminder we all needed to hear as business owners.
WE CREATE OUR REALITY. WE DETERMINE OUR SCHEDULES. WE HAVE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.
So instead of feeling down again yesterday about my less than energized self, I decided that I was no longer going to feel BAD about being behind on my to do list.
I instead watched some videos from the wedding and smiled ear to ear, reliving those beautiful memories.
I am writing this to you because so often, we trap ourselves in a world of ‘SHOULDS’.
I should be doing 5 things off my to do list.
I should be working out to lose that gelato weight.
I should be planning XYZ project already.
But what if we just simply chose to NOT imprison ourselves anymore in our world of “shoulds?”
What if we can simply decide that today, I will just honor my body and watch netflix all day, and not feel bad about it?
This is the energy I am trying to cultivate more of, where I am in a harmonious relationship with the present insead of trying to fight it tooth and nail.
So, no matter how you are feeling on the productivity scale, may this email be a reminder to you that YOU, as CEO of your business, get to decide how you want to spend your time and the spaciousness you feel around that decision.
❤️Honor your present moment.
❤️Don’t guilt yourself if your pace is slower than you’d like it to be.
❤️This is all a part of the process.
Going to slowly unpack my bag now! Hope to see you on our next member call where I’ll share all the details about our wedding and my in person meet up happening soon! →Join us
With love,
Gloria